Biographica
July 13, 2025
BAME
July 14, 2025
Do Not Change Yourself
you are Unoque in Every Possible way Do Not change to Something they want You to Be Just Be You
Adds on TV or Social Media
Advertisments tell you how to look young how to loose weight how to do this or that as if they know better. They are humans who destroy other humans. When they say loose wight for the summer do you know what th ereal message is? They implay you are fat and ugly do what we say so you will be beautiful. The assume you are fat does this mean anything>?
Where are the wokes they should be ashamed they do not react to those adds, if someone comes to you and say to your face you are fat you will slap him cal him racist and it is a hate crime right? Why we are not reacting to those adds te same way?
It is called braiin washed we hear them every day and night slim diet, make up it is part of every day life yet they call you ugly and you are fat you are not good as you are do as we say by our product spent yor money on us and we will still call you fat and ugly.
This is where we live hypocricy and lies and deceive and we learn how to live through them. So next time if someone says to you face to face you are fat do not take it wrong you must use to be called fat every day why not now?
You Are
You are special. You are worthy. You have a kind of magic that can never be imitated. You are a blessing. You are spectacular. You are most beautiful when you are yourself.
How did these words make you feel? I’m betting on the chance that they did something to your heart.
It feels wonderful when someone appreciates you for who you are just as you are, doesn’t it? When they encourage you to be yourself more and love you for it.
We all deserve that. But, we deserve that most from our own selves. So, I’m glad you’re here looking for words that will inspire you to be yourself. Here they are
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind
Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring
Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, stop caring about what others think, Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness
Be your own celebrity. Chase your own self. You are worth infinite treasures of this planet, Don’t sell yourself short; you are your best asset. When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you
You are unique. You have different talents and abilities. You don’t have to always follow in the footsteps of others. And most importantly, you should always remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing and have a responsibility to develop the talents you have been given
Be Yourself in Relationships, at Work, and Beyond
Explore and appreciate your inner world: Examine your personal values, beliefs, and passions. These are the foundations of being yourself. Start by writing in a journal about what matters most to you and why
Remind yourself that you are enough as you are: Replace critical thoughts with positive affirmations. This can boost self-esteem and reinforce your sense of true self. Each time a negative thought arises, counter it with a positive statement about yourself.
Celebrate your strengths: Focus on what you do well. Acknowledging your talents builds confidence, so make a list of your skills and find ways to use them daily.
Dismiss others’ judgments of you: Remind yourself that your value doesn’t depend on others’ opinions. Free yourself from the worry of what others think. Your worth is intrinsic and not determined by external validation.
Embrace change and growth: Accept that change is a part of life and an opportunity for personal growth. Identify one area you want to grow, and take small steps toward improvement.
Let go of the past: Use past events as lessons, not limitations. Reflect on your experiences, and acknowledge their impact, but understand that your history doesn’t dictate your future. Then, shift your focus to the present.
Express yourself creatively: Creativity can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and to express your thoughts and feelings. Try a new hobby like painting, writing, or playing a musical instrument.
Be Yourself
As much as we might like to think we’re authentic, we may find that we’re not always true to ourselves with others. The essence of being ourselves is being who we really are from moment to moment. Instead of being and showing our authentic self, we may have constructed ways of being to try to look good, please others, and avoid the pain of embarrassment or rejection.
We fashion a self that’s not really us, which has often been called our false self. As discussed in my book, The Authentic Heart, I call this our “fabricated self.”
Renowned psychologist Carl Rogers has nudged us to live in a manner that he called “congruent.” This means that what we show and express to others is harmonious with what we’re experiencing inside
If we’re feeling angry or sad, we acknowledge and honor that. Rather than flash a fake smile or pretend we’re fine, we have the awareness and courage to be emotionally honest and genuine with ourselves, which creates a foundation for being genuine with others.
Authenticity with ourselves, which is easier said than done, forms the basis for genuine intimacy with others. We can’t enjoy deep and satisfying connections if we’re not being emotionally honest with ourselves.
Why is it so challenging to be authentic and congruent in our lives and relationships? What often hijacks us is unacknowledged shame.
In my psychotherapy practice over the past 40+ years, I’ve educated my clients about how shame is an unconscious driver of sabotaging behaviors. Becoming aware of the sneaky ways that shame shows up is often the first step toward living a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Shame is that gnawing sense of being flawed, defective, and unworthy of love. It drives us to construct a self that we believe (or hope) will be acceptable to others. Being rejected, banished, and humiliated are among the most painful human experiences.
We perpetuate our aniety and exhaust ourselves as we scramble to figure out who we need to be to win acceptance and love. Rather than relax into our natural, authentic self, we twist ourselves into knots in order to belong and find that elusive safety we crave.
When or experience has convinced us that it’s not safe to be authentic, we labor to design and polish a self that we think will be acceptable. Some people might showcase their cleverness, beauty, or humor. For others, it might be amassing wealth or power—proving to the world how “successful” they’ve become. We might strive to be better than others in order to be loved
Trying to be someone we’re not is exhausting and counterproductive to finding the love and intimacy we desire.
We may have been so driven by shame to create a false self that we’ve lost touch with the goodness and beauty of who we really are.
Psychology of YOU
In psychology, however, it is common to talk about the self as something that exists for each individual. This is who we are effortlessly, without having to adapt to the expectations of others. It’s about being authentic. Dr. Gabor Maté calls authenticity “the quality of being true to oneself, and the capacity to shape one’s own life from a deep knowledge of that self”.
To me, this seemed both simple and extremely difficult. It’s a tautology. I would have to figure out what being authentic is in order to be myself, but to be myself I would have to be authentic.
Importantly, this socialization is not really about changing who we are, but rather changing how we behave with others given who we are. Anger, for example, is an emotional response calling for self-preservation. It can be a response to injustice or misunderstanding, and is an important feeling.
Well-socialized individuals with authentic selves recognize their own anger, and while respecting others, they may assertively let others know what bothered them. Under-socialized individuals might throw temper tantrums or silently plot revenge.
Be Yourself
You are who you are no matter what do not feel ashamed of who you are, we can not have the same body, we can not all look beautiful or have green eyes , what is wrong having brown eyes? We are unique in any way we behave in any way we dressed . Some are lucky and have more money than others and they can afford expensive clothes, well guess what the clothes do not make who you are rather they cover you.
If you see someone wearing expensive clothes look at them again they are out of touch, no interesying to be with. A normal person is more easy to approach and have as a fiend. This is what we need the most friends. When we have problems it is hard to talk to your parents because you feel ashamed or you think they will judge you or whatever the reason is but a friend a real good friend you can talk to as much as you want.
No matter what you face in life do not try ti be someone else or to be like the big star uu see on the screen, these are illyussions they are not real, be who you are and if they like you they will be friends if they are not well it is their loss. Be authentic is so simple and so beautifl those who will like you they will do for ever.
Lear How to Be You
Learning how to be yourself in today’s world isn’t always easy. Between social pressure, comparison, and fear of judgment, it’s common to lose sight of who you truly are. But living authentically—being yourself—is essential for long-term happiness, emotional resilience, and meaningful connection.
Being authentically yourself means understanding and embracing who you are at your core, but it isn’t always straightforward. Finding your true self often involves introspection, courage, and letting go of long-held beliefs about who you’re supposed to be. With that said, the rewards of being yourself are immeasurable and may open doors to more authentic experiences, deeper relationships, and a greater sense of wellbeing.
When you stay true to yourself, you align your choices with your values, express your thoughts honestly, and show up as your genuine self in every space you occupy. So let’s explore practical ways to reconnect with your identity, build confidence, and learn how to become your true self.
Relationships: Being true to who you are can help you form deeper and more honest connections with people. When you’re able to be your true self, your relationships can be based on trust and mutual respect.
Wellbeing: Living authentically can reduce stress and anxiety that comes from trying to be someone else. It can also lead to greater happiness and a positive self-image.
Work: At work, being yourself can bring unique ideas and perspectives. This can make you a valuable team member and boost your confidence in handling challenges.
Know yourself: Knowing yourself fully will help guide your decisions and shape your interactions with others, as well as open the door to self-love and trust.
Recognize your emotions: Recognizing your emotions so you can acknowledge and accept your feelings is also essential to being yourself. Emotions form a significant part of your identity, so it’s important to understand what you’re feeling day-to-day.
Know what makes you comfortable: Knowing what makes you comfortable and what doesn’t can allow you to identify your needs, set boundaries, and communicate them, which is crucial for maintaining your sense of self.
Embrace your unique skills and talents: Your unique skills and talents are also a big part of who you are, so focus on what you excel at and take pride in these abilities.
On the flip side, recognizing areas where you can improve is also important, as accepting and addressing your weaknesses shows self-awareness and a commitment to personal growth.
Why can’t I just be myself?
Societal norms, peer pressure, and personal insecurities can make it difficult to be yourself. The desire to fit in or fear of judgment can lead you to mask your true self. Everyone faces these challenges at some point. The key is to work consistently toward self-acceptance and confidence. Start small by identifying aspects of your personality or interests that you feel most comfortable sharing. Gradually, as you gain confidence, you can reveal more of your true self to the world.
How do I start being myself around other people?
Start by noticing when you feel most comfortable and authentic—this gives you clues about who you are when you’re not filtering yourself. Practice expressing your thoughts honestly in low-stakes situations, and surround yourself with people who support your growth. Being yourself is a process, so give yourself grace as you practice it.
Why is it important to be true to yourself?
When you are true to yourself, you make decisions that reflect your core values rather than trying to please others. This reduces stress, improves self-respect, and strengthens your relationships because you’re being genuine. Authenticity helps you build a life that feels meaningful and aligned.
How can I stay true to myself during hard times?
In difficult moments, staying true to yourself means listening to your inner voice instead of reacting out of fear or pressure. Take time to reflect before making choices, remind yourself of your values, and ask: “What decision reflects who I really am?” Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can also help anchor you in your truth.
How do I learn to be there for myself?
Being there for yourself means offering the same kindness and support to yourself that you’d offer a good friend. It involves acknowledging your feelings, needs, and desires and taking steps to fulfill them. Start by regularly checking in with yourself. Ask yourself how you’re feeling and what you need at that moment. It could be something as simple as a break from work or spending time on a hobby. Practicing self-compassion is also crucial. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during challenging times.
Shame Stifles Authenticity
Shame erodes authenticity. If we hold the core belief that we’re flawed, then this mental/emotional construct colors what we present to the world. Shame conditions us to lose touch with the spontaneous, joyful child within us. Life becomes all too serious. We lose our sense of humor and lightheartedness.
Internalizing the message that there’s no room to be authentic—to be a person with strengths and limitations—we move away from ourselves; we abandon ourselves. Our self-worth can only grow in a climate of affirming who we are, which includes honoring the full range of our feelings and validating our needs, wants, and foibles.
As we come to recognize when shame is operating and how it stifles our life energy, it begins to loosen its destructive grip. Gradually, we can honor and stand behind ourselves, regardless of how others might see us or judge us.
We increasingly realize that we have no control over what others think about us, and we’re no longer so concerned about it. Holding ourselves with respect and dignity becomes increasingly ascendant — displacing our real or imagined thoughts about how we’re being perceived by others.
We delight in the discovery of how freeing and empowering it is to be our authentic self.
The limitations of language make it difficult to talk about authenticity. The “authentic self” is really a misnomer. It implies that there is some ideal way of being and that we need to find this authentic self, as if it existed apart from our moment-to-moment experiences.
If we cling to a construct in our mind about what it means to be our authentic self, we’re missing the point.
Being authentic is a verb, not a noun. It’s a process of noticing the ever-changing flow of experiencing inside us, apart from the contaminating influences of shame and our inner critic. We give ourselves permission to notice what we’re feeling, sensing, and thinking in this moment—and we’re willing to congruently show that when it feels “right” to do so.
Shame recedes by flashing the healing light of mindfulness upon it and working with it gently and skillfully. By recognizing that we have shame, but that we are not the shame, we can more freely enjoy the precious gift of being alive
