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Is Love a Crime?
Day of Love
There you are mind your own business you go to work, you see friends, you go out with them for dinner or a night out having fun and life is beautiful. And the devil around the corner thinks otherwise and he is target you and how simply he is going to get you? He sents someone the way you want them to be, someone who you think he/she understands you and before you know your life is changing.
You are in love with someone just met, and life is more beautiful, you smile to everyone your heart is beating fast and finally the songs you play on the radio every day now they make sense. The lyrics you think was he thinking about me when he wrote the song?
People smiling back at you, they know me all those years they never smile at me before? You acting like a fool and you don’t mind you are just happy and you wait to see your love tonight you made plans and you can’t wait. The night is young.
Hours passing by and it is nearly midnight, you are stll hoping they will turn up, I am sure they will they feel in love as I do. Your heart is hoping but your brain is so tired can not take it anymore.
Every little noise you hear you jump thinking its them they finally are here, But they are not. You are tired and you have to wake up early, but you are hoping your love is on his way. The devil sits in the corner and he laughs so loud but you refuse to listren to his laughter.
All those years you spent them alone, you re saving your money for the day like yesterday when love was inside you. Lonely nights you can recall when nobody wanted to know if you are alive or dead, all the build up for the one who is going to steal your heart. You are soft man you always have been, but you didn’t care, still you don’t care.
If you block pain, you also block love
Now you feeling hurt and you wonder why it hurts so much? Emotions inside you running high , your brain overlaps between the physical and the social pain and you feel it. You can not let it go and your nights are longer your loneliness is doubled. The streets are empty the devil sits in the corner looking for his next victim. You were to easy for him no challenge, Your pure heart is not a match for him.
You want to cry but you are afraid because they may see you and they may feel sorry for you, so you hold back the tears. Your fathers words coming in to your head “men do not cry”. there you go again back to work you barely smile and life is OK you have your friends your have your home the only thing is missing is…. Don’t say the word the devis is still around the corner
Physical Pain Dies, Lost Love Doesn’t
Psychologists believe that physical pain has two separate components. There is the sensory component, which gives basic information about the damage, such as its intensity and location. There’s also an affective component, which is a more qualitative interpretation of the injury, such as how distressing it is.
Initial studies that followed Eisenberger’s pioneering work focused on the affective component. (The ACC, for instance, is closely related to affective pain — so much so that animals without that part of their brain can feel pain but aren’t bothered by it.) As a result, researchers began to think that while the qualitative aspects of social and physical pain might overlap, the sensory components might not.
Recently that thinking has changed. A group of researchers, led by Ethan Kross of the University of Michigan, believed that social pain might have a hidden sensory component that hadn’t been found because games like Cyberball just weren’t painful enough. So instead they recruited 40 test participants and subjected them to a far more intense social injury: the sight of an ex-lover who’d broken up with them.
Kross and colleagues brought test participants into a brain imaging machine and had them complete two multi-part tasks. One was a social task: Participants viewed pictures of the former romantic partner while thinking about the breakup, then viewed pictures of a good friend. The other was a physical task: Participants felt a very hot stimulation on their forearm, and also felt another that was just warm.
As expected from prior research, activity in areas associated with affective pain (such as the ACC) increased during the more intense tasks (seeing the “ex” and feeling the strong heat). But activity in areas linked with physical pain, such as the somatosensory cortex and the dorsal posterior insula, also increased during these tasks. The results suggested that social and physical pain have more in common than merely causing distress — they share sensory brain regions too.
“These results give new meaning to the idea that rejection ‘hurts,’” the researchers concluded in a 2011 issue of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
Still it’s not quite accurate to say that physical and social pain are exactly the same. As other research suggests, social pain may actually be much worse in the long run. A kick to the groin might feel just as bad as a breakup in the moment, but while the physical aching goes away, the memory of lost love can linger forever.
Love Thrives When We’re Open to Pain
I remember when a partner was dying he did his best to push me awy and I was hurt first because he was leaving me for good and second I was so naive to think he dont love me anymore and he wants me out. Yes he wanted me gone but why? He did not wanted me to suffer .
He wanted me out so he will die thinking I may be happy now with someone else or even alone, anywhere but near him. I called him a basterd I call him names , but I was too young to see thriough his heart I was so stupid not to realise why he was benaving the way he did.
Now I know if someone loved me that was this man whom I will never see him again to apologise to tell him how stupid I was. He knew I will suffer if I stayed . Till today when i think of those days I feel the pain like a heavy stone in my heart and there are times I can hardly breath it is a pain , like not any other pain. There are two worlds classing together and the brain suffers.
That’s where somatic pain comes in — the kind that isn’t just in your mind. It lives in your chest, your gut, your back (Feldner et al., 2003). Unfelt emotions don’t just vanish. They store themselves. They wait. And over time, that storage turns into anxiety, emotional numbness, even physical illness.
Carl Jung once said, “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” That darkness — the pain, the grief, the heartbreak — is not there to destroy you. It’s there to wake you up. To purify something in you.
The Japanese have a concept called kintsugi — where they repair broken pottery with gold. They don’t hide the cracks. They honor them. The break becomes the beauty.
What if we treated our emotional wounds like that?
Instead of hiding our pain, we embrace it. We let it change us. We become stronger not because we avoided being broken — but because we allowed ourselves to be broken and healed.
Now think about love. We fall for someone… and then we stop ourselves. We say, “Nope. I’ve been hurt before. I know how this ends.” So we hold back, love carefully. We give only parts of ourselves.
We think we’re being smart. But really… we’re blocking the experience.
Imagine getting a massage, but you don’t let your body relax. You are tense, bracing for pain, thinking too much. So the massage happens — but it doesn’t land. You don’t feel better after. You blocked it.
The Chemistry of Love
The same brain areas that process physical pain are activated when experiencing social or emotional pain from rejection or heartbreak. This can lead to physical symptoms
Love makes you vulnerable, and the fear of loss, rejection, or not being on the same page as your partner can lead to anxiety. The initial stages of love, or any new relationship, can be filled with uncertainty about where things are headed, which can trigger feelings of loneliness or jealousy. The euphoria of new love is linked to increased dopamine, but as this fades, the resulting mood swings can be painful. Lower levels of serotonin can also contribute to intrusive thoughts and anxieties.
Love can hurt because it requires you to grow, face your weaknesses, and become a better person, which can be a difficult and uncomfortable process. But we never do we always fall for the same game over and over.
Past experiences of hurt or trauma can be triggered by interactions in a current relationship. Disagreements, unresolved conflicts, and a lack of connection can cause significant emotional pain.
Hurts too Much
Be intentional in your actions and communication to improve connection and reduce conflict. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist to help you navigate your feelings and relationship challenges. Engage in activities that help manage emotions, such as journaling, exercising, spending time in nature, or meditating. Establish clear boundaries and communicate them to your partner.
Most of us see the connection between social and physical pain as a figurative one. We agree that “love hurts,” but we don’t think it hurts the way that, say, being kicked in the shin hurts. At the same time, life often presents a compelling argument that the two types of pain share a common source.
Behavioral science is catching up with the anecdotes, too. In the past few years, psychology researchers have found a good deal of literal truth embedded in the metaphorical phrases comparing love to pain. Neuroimaging studies have shown that brain regions involved in processing physical pain overlap considerably with those tied to social anguish. The connection is so strong that traditional bodily painkillers seem capable of relieving our emotional wounds. Love may actually hurt, like hurt hurt, after all.
take love seriously and do not let the devil from around the corner to play with your heart, love is a crime . Psychologists take the matter seriously. A breakthrough occurred in an fMRI study led by APS Fellow Naomi Eisenberger of University of California, Los Angeles. The researchers knew which areas of the brain became active during physical pain: the anterior cingulate cortex (ACC), which serves as an alarm for distress, and the right ventral prefrontal cortex (RVPFC), which regulates it. They decided to induce social pain in test participants to see how those areas responded.
Love and Science
Eisenberger and colleagues fed participants into a brain imaging machine and hooked them into a game called Cyberball — essentially a game of virtual catch. Participants were under the impression that two other people would be playing as well. In actuality, the other players were computer presets controlled by the researchers.
When Eisenberger and colleagues analyzed the neural images of exclusion, they discovered “a pattern of activations very similar to those found in studies of physical pain.” During implicit exclusion, the ACC acted up while the RVPFC stayed at normal levels. (The brain might have recognized this exclusion as accidental, and therefore not painful enough to merit corrective measures.) During explicit social exclusion, however, both ACC and RVPFC activity increased in participants.
The study inspired a new line of research on neural similarities between social and physical pain. “Understanding the underlying commonalities between physical and social pain unearths new perspectives on issues such as … why it ‘hurts’ to lose someone we love,” the researchers concluded in a 2003 issue of Science.
In a review of studies conducted since this seminal work, published in the February 2012 issue of Current Directions in Psychological Science, Eisenberger offered a potential evolutionary reason for the relationship. Early humans needed social bonds to survive: things like acquiring food, eluding predators, and nursing offspring are all easier done in partnership with others. Maybe over time this social alert system piggybacked onto the physical pain system so people could recognize social distress and quickly correct it.
Heart-Shaped Box
There is a bright side to the new line of research linking social and physical pain: Remedies for one may well double as therapy for the other. A group of psychological researchers, led by C. Nathan DeWall of the University of Kentucky, recently tested whether acetaminophen — the main ingredient in Tylenol — could relieve the pain of emotional distress as effectively as it relieves bodily aches.
In one experiment, some test participants took a 500-mg dose of acetaminophen twice a day for three weeks, while others took a placebo. All 62 participants provided self-reports on a “hurt feelings” scale designed to measure social exclusion. After Day 9, people who took the pain pill reported significantly lower levels of hurt feelings than those who took a placebo.
As a follow-up study, DeWall and colleagues gave either acetaminophen or a placebo to 25 test participants for three weeks, then brought them into the lab to play Cyberball. When participants were excluded from the game, those in the acetaminophen group showed significantly lower activity in their ACC than those in the placebo group — a sign that the painkiller was relieving social pain just as it normally did physical pain.
“For some, social exclusion is an inescapable and frequent experience,” the authors conclude in a 2010 issue of Psychological Science. “Our findings suggest that an over-the-counter painkiller normally used to relieve physical aches and pains can also at least temporarily mitigate social-pain-related distress.”
The effect breaks both ways. In another report from Psychological Science, published in 2009, a research group led by Sarah Master of University of California, Los Angeles, found that social support could relieve the intensity of physical pain — and that the supportive person didn’t even have to be present for the soothing to occur.
Master and colleagues recruited 25 women who’d been in relationships for at least six months and brought them into the lab with their romantic partner. They determined each woman’s pain threshold, then subjected her to a series of six-second heat stimulations. Half of the stimulations were given at the threshold pain level, half were given one degree (Celsius) higher.
Meanwhile the woman took part in a series of tasks to measure which had a mitigating effect on the pain. Some involved direct contact (holding the partner’s hand, a stranger’s hand, or an object) while others involved visual contact (viewing the partner’s photo, a stranger’s photo, or an object). In the end, contact involving a romantic partner — both direct and visual alike — led to significantly lower pain ratings compared to the other tasks. In fact, looking at a partner’s picture led to slightly lower pain ratings than actually holding his hand.
All I wanted was to fall in love and be loved I do not want to medicate myself, WTF simple things end up in a box of pills shaped like a heart
